When Someone You Love Suffers ***
To experience the pain of someone you love without fear means to let go of your own needs and be in complete presence with that person. This is never easy, and we need to lovingly allow ourselves the time and space to do this as best we can. To be fully present is the most precious gift which we can offer to another. Our fear is not for the person who suffers but for ourselves. It is borne of the mind and emotions, which scream that we cannot live unless the one we love exists in the form which it demands. What is really feared is our own aloneness. And this fear must be accepted without judgment.
There is a deep peace in this fearless love, tinged with sorrow. It is a peace born of the understanding that this finite drama is but a disguise, and that true perfection exists, even in the midst of profound human pain. In this peace we afford each the dignity to learn as they choose, and we offer heart and hand with compassion and honor.